An Antidote To The Politics of Division for 2023Share via
Divisive rhetoric, polarization and drama are at an all time high, especially during election season.
We don’t have to let it get us down and we don’t have to participate. There’s a better way.
Here’s my take on what’s happening.
The Formula for Growing Your Fan Base
Fervor can overcome hypocrisy, and even grow your fan base. The more fervently you proclaim your values, the less people will focus on your lack of integrity. In fact, if you kick it up a notch with fear, they might forget completely what you’ve done, or how you act off camera. The more passionately you preach your values while instilling fear about any who disagree, the less people seem care about your hypocrisy. In fact, it can grow, solidify and polarize the fan base even more. It’s the perfect formula for avoiding personal accountability.
If you are drained by this drama, and want a different way to interact that brings people together and uplifts humanity, I offer this alternative formula.
The Formula for Living with Compassion
Compassion is so much more than being kind to others. It’s about affirming and uplifting human V-Value, C-Capability, and R-Responsibility. Not just one, but all three. VCR. Not just some people who agree with me, but all humans.
Drama compromises compassion. Drama is part of our humanity though. Drama is what happens when people struggle against each other to feel justified about their behaviors. We all do it. What matters is how quickly we recognize it and get back to VCR. This formula includes personal accountability for behavior.
How You Can Help Make 2023 Better
If you want to help create a more compassionate world, here’s what you can do.
- Don’t buy into fear. Recognize than when you are afraid your reptilian brain hijacks your best self.
- Don’t buy into false dichotomies promoted by hypocrites who want to re-direct your attention and build their fan base. It’s not about us vs. them, right vs. wrong. It’s about humans who are interdependent, working together for a better world.
- Hold people accountable for their behavior, past and present. This includes you. This doesn’t mean abandoning them or canceling them. It means not letting them avoid the conversation or change the subject. It means asking them how they are making amends for what they’ve done, and how their behavior is different now.
- Check yourself before you become part of the problem. Recognize your own drama, and redirect your energy to treating yourself and others as valuable, capable and responsible.
- Unsubscribe from drama.