Asking For Help…It’s A Game Changer!
…and harder than it sounds!
This is a simple concept that, for some, can be deceivingly difficult to implement. I offer you the following personal experience as an example.
I spend a good deal of time reflecting on what I am doing. Whether it be work tasks, family situations, or plans with friends, I find myself mulling over how things have been, what I want to be different, and possibilities for getting there. Often this processing occurs in-between and around what I’m actually doing. I don’t get bogged down by it. In fact, I enjoy it! I normally bounce right back into doing. On the other hand…
…there are times when I make different choices and my world seemingly gets more complicated and stress ridden. Here are a few familiar situations:
- I enjoy people. From time to time I will let myself get distracted with the enjoyment of being with others around me. I’ll help them with what they are involved with at the time. Consequently, I do not pay too much attention to my own responsibilities.
- I also like to have fun! In general I’m easily distracted and get energized by new and exciting things and possibilities. Of course, I can end-up off course, having fun, and not attending to my to-do list.
- One of my favorite things to do is…nothing! I love getting lost in thought, imagining what is possible, how things are connected and related. Needless to say, this behavior has some interesting consequences.
We all have our quirks and lead ourselves into places that are far more complicated than they need to be. The consequence of all three of the scenarios I mentioned is a belief, an internal dialogue, where I convince myself that somehow I’m not going to be OK unless I go at it alone.
This is such a trap! The irony is that the way I can help myself is by asking for help from someone else.
Asking for help has been the single most effective strategy I’ve used to help myself. As I continue to practice this I am noticing it becomes easier. People want to help. We want advanced notice when possible. Most of us are adaptable, understanding, kind and compassionate.
Free yourself from the mental traps and emotional anguish by disclosing your situation. We aren’t relegated to live and work in isolation. We just have to ask for help.