Don’t Buy My Book For Christmas: Six Reasons Why

Posted on November 28, 2018 by Nate Regier / 3 comments
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The book is called Conflict Without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading With Compassionate Accountability.

Don’t buy it today

Here are six reasons why buying my book for Christmas is a bad idea.

1. There’s nowhere to hide.

People who have read my book and gone through our Compassionate Accountability training say,

“There’s nowhere to hide. Your model quickly exposes all the ways I waste the energy of conflict struggling against myself and others.”

So don’t buy my book and avoid exposing your own drama. Of course, everyone else already knows it, but the longer you avoid knowing it, the happier you will be.

2. Compassionate Accountability is exhausting!

Drama is much easier and doesn’t require extra effort or discipline. You already know how to do it. The holidays are all about taking it easy, so don’t buy my book.

3. I’d have to challenge my belief system.

Compassion requires we accept that people are worthwhile, capable, and accountable. If this contradicts your world view, then don’t buy my book.

4. Nate might ask me about it.

If I find out you bought my book I might ask you if you liked it. What if you didn’t read it, didn’t like it, or didn’t understand what I wrote? Awkward! Better off not buying the book.

5. I love feeling justified.

Drama is fueled by justification. Compassion thrives on safety, curiosity and consistency. If you don’t want to give up your drug, don’t buy the book!

6. I’d have to be responsible.

Seriously! Learning more effective ways to communicate with people means you can no longer pretend you don’t know any better. People might expect you to do something different. For heaven’s sake, don’t buy the book for yourself, get it for everyone else!

Don’t buy my book today.

Sarcasm and reverse psychology were extensively applied in the creation of this post. Yeah, I just did that.
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Jim Flickinger
Posted on December 5, 2018

Nate,
…and you have said that sarcasm is not effective communication. I believe your message was quite clear! Happy Holidays! Jim

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Nate Regier
Posted on December 7, 2018

Holidays are a great time to break the rules 🙂

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LARITA JARVIS
Posted on December 5, 2018

I am cracking up! Thanks for giving me more reasons to giggle during the holidays. I like your style Nate 🙂

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Bev Baumgartner
Posted on December 5, 2018

I agree with LaRita! Thank you for this funny post. Justification is a favorite drug if mine, for sure!

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Nate Regier
Posted on December 7, 2018

We all love it!

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Nate Regier
Posted on December 7, 2018

You are welcome Larita!

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Billy Shelton
Posted on December 5, 2018

Love it! This book and your training will ALWAYS be in demand as imperfect people try to team up and work together.

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