Making A Point vs Making A Difference

Posted on October 20, 2021 by Nate Regier / 0 comments
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Many leaders face this dilemma at one point or another; their behavior pushes them further away from what they really want, but they can’t see it. They have layers of defenses and excuses, pointing fingers at everyone except themselves. One of my favorite questions to ask in these situations is, “Do you want to be right, or be effective? You get to choose but you can’t have both.” This usually invites some serious self-reflection.

Recently, my daughter Lauren shared with me another way of saying it,

Are you trying to make a point, or make a difference?

I love this because it not only captures the dark side of mission-driven leaders, but it illustrates the mindset difference between poor leaders vs great leaders.

When you are trying to make a point,

When you are trying to make a difference,

  • You seek to understand, not to be understood
  • Being effective is more important than being justified. What could you gain if you gave up being justified?
  • You recognize the difference between having values and pushing beliefs
  • You inspire people with your vision and they follow for their own reasons
  • Inclusion is your secret weapon
  • You meet people where they are and journey together
  • You prefer dialogue over debate
  • You strive to influence diverse perspectives towards a common goal
  • People follow you because they want to feel valuable and significant
  • You measure success based on engagement and impact
  • You take the long view

It’s your choice, but you can’t have both. Which one will it be today?

Compassionate Accountability¬ģ elegantly balances care for people, creative problem-solving, and focus on core values. It’s the toolkit for making a difference.

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