Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability by Nate Regier, PhD

A Constant Tug of War

Life and work can seem like a constant tug of war, with people struggling against each other or with themselves to get what they want, causing homes, communities, relationships and entire organizations to unravel. In Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability, clinical psychologist and transformative communication training expert Dr. Nate Regier tells us it doesn’t have to be that way. The concepts and tools he shares can turn conflict into a partner for positive change.

Provocative, illuminating, and endlessly informative, Conflict without Casualties will transform both the way you see and feel about other people and the way you approach conflict and accountability. In the book, Regier brings us the collective intelligence of Next Element®, the firm he co-founded that serves, advises, trains and certifies high-value change agents internationally.­ This book embodies the lessons of Leading out of Drama®, Next Element’s suite of training and certification tools. In true field guide fashion, it becomes the central reference point for Next Element’s work across the world.

Embrace Conflict. Transform Your Life.

You can’t avoid conflict, but you can control how you approach it. Conflict without Casualties holds the power to change the dynamic at work. Your personal relationships will never look the same. Regier invites us to replace the unrealistic, sometimes punishing, even crushing demands we exact on both our colleagues and loved ones with openness, resourcefulness and persistence.

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Meet the Author

Nate Regier, PhD, is the CEO and cofounder of Next Element Consulting, a global leadership firm dedicated to bringing compassion into the workplace. Dr. Regier is a former practicing psychologist and expert in social-emotional intelligence, interpersonal communication and leadership. Recognized as a Top 100 keynote speaker, he is a Process Communication Model® Certifying Master Trainer.

Nate is the author of four books: Beyond Drama: Transcending Energy Vampires; Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability; Seeing People Through: Unleash Your Leadership Potential with The Process Communication Model; and his newest book, Compassionate Accountability: How Leaders Build Connection and Get Results. He hosts a podcast called “On Compassion with Dr. Nate,” writes a weekly blog, contributes to multiple industry publications and blogs, and is a regular guest on podcasts.

Nate Regier’s compassion cycle model provides a roadmap individuals and organizations can use to address conflict in constructive ways. Using great examples, he paints the picture of how to turn around behaviors and mindsets that eat away at trust, collaboration, and growth. When the drama quotient goes down, you can free up incredible energy for creativity and innovation. You’ll find the insights in this book applicable across many areas of life. And as each element of the model unfolds, the reader can’t help but look in the mirror and identify their own habits and opportunities. This is a book you’ll return to more than once.

Elizabeth Bruno

Chief Learning Officer, Baptist Health, Jacksonville, FL

I highly recommend you invest in his book, especially if you'd like to learn how to approach conflict in a creative way. Nate presents a brilliant, practical model that's unlike any other you might have studied.

Meredith Bell

President, Performance Support Systems

Our management team of eight department heads read the book and convened a discussion of what we learned. Not only did learning about the drama triangle radically change our understanding of conflicts in our company, we were able to devise three strong actions to change our priorities in meetings and training. Our company is proud to be founded on five core values like stewardship and quality, but we realized that missing “compassionate accountability” as a core value was holding us back from safely and quickly responding to challenges. Thank you to Nate and the Next Element team for providing such changeful and clear solutions to improve our company culture.

Neal Maillet

Vice President and Associate Publisher, Berrett-Koehler Publishers

The world needs Next Element’s brilliant model for transforming conflict into productive change. Nate’s book profoundly improved my mindset and gave me the tools to have powerful relationship-building conversations.

Vicki Halsey, PhD

Vice President, The Ken Blanchard Companies, and Author of the Bestselling Brilliance by Design

Who could ever think of conflict as creative? Nate Regier, that’s who. Nate’s strategies are effective at work and at home—at every level. Don’t shy away from conflict; face it with creativity and compassion and watch things change for the better.

Ken Blanchard

Co-author of The New One Minute Manager® and Collaboration Begins with You

Nate Regier takes the old idea that creativity is the hidden purpose behind conflict and opposition in this world and applies it to many practical and important areas of human endeavor. His work with compassionate engagement can help sustain relationships of all kinds.

Michael Meade

Author of Fate and Destiny and Why the World Doesn’t End

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