Giving Gifts vs. Being A Gift
Thanksgiving, leading into Black Friday, and on towards Christmas is the most commercialized and materialistic time period in my culture. Although I resisted the urge to take advantage of those super “too good to be true” deals on Thanksgiving night, I did spend some time shopping on Friday.
I also spent a lot of time with family this past week reflecting on what we are grateful for, and nurturing relationships that sustain us far beyond the material things. What I realized is that giving that perfect gift is great, but being a gift to my family, friends, and co-workers is so much more important. Do you want to be a gift to those around you this holiday season?
Do more of…
- Affirming the positive qualities in others
- Listening, asking curious questions, and showing interest in others
- Making promises and keeping them
- Sharing what’s really on your heart; joys, fears, aspirations, dreams
- Being vulnerable and transparent
- Being still, being present
Do less of…
- Talking about yourself
- Waiting for others to stop talking so you can talk more about yourself
- Noticing what’s missing or what’s wrong
- Being late, being rushed, being distracted
- Worrying about everything being just right
- Worrying about what others think
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